I didn't disappear!

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Life does this crazy thing sometimes: It happens.

When life happens, other things sometimes don't. One of them is writing about food. Another is caring about my appearance. But I can tell you what, despite those two things I love being missing from my world recently, I can assure you that my world isn't any less magical or spectacular. I will admit, I wish I had spent more time inbetween errands, unpacking boxes, and exploring my new city to take some time on the way I look-- It would probably have made me feel less frantic. I would have also enjoyed cooking at home a little more and my waistline would have appreciated it too!

But here I am, chipped fingernails and greasy hair to assure you: I've got recipes and stories galore! Stay tuned for Tofu Tacos, Cinnamon&Honey Glazed Carrots, and rantings (with ravings) about the differences between Detroit and San Francisco. 

I cannot wait to share how awesome this move is proving to be! 

West Coast Blues

I heard horror stories about apartment hunting in San Francisco and before actually seeing the city, I really just didn't believe any of them. However, after starting the search myself, I've learned that apartment hunting in the Bay Area is really hard. It's not only that I'm picky and didn't like any of the 10+ places I viewed, either. (That would be typical of me. . .) Apartment hunting requires a lot of effort. Landlords aren't jumping at YOU. They're being mobbed themselves by plenty of likely tenants.

Truth is, there's a lot of people and only so much housing. By a lot, I mean "the second-most densely populated major city in the United States." They've got people CRAMMED into a 46.9 square-mile area. It's getting to the point where homes that used to be spacious are now renovated into TINY studio apartments. 

It's not just the competition of it all that makes it difficult: The cost is insane. In San Francisco, ​I will be paying triple my current rent, more than enough to mortgage a home and get a loan on another car in my current city. 

​If all that hasn't scared you off, make sure you jump at the chance to view an apartment even if your interest in the place is minimal: the next day, the place could be gone. I found that to be true more than once. If there are some ​traits you like, you may need to take the risk despite not having everything you wanted. 

As if I didn't have enough anxiety about moving across the country: making a move like this one requires trusting a lot of people you don't know. That's why another big thing to watch out for is the dishonesty of landlords and realtors. As with most things in life, if it seems like too spectacular an offer to be real life, it probably is. There were so many places listed as having reasonable cost with amazing square-footage, only to learn: advertisements aren't always true. 

I found the best success from walking. Yes, walking: Walking around areas you've heard good things about will make you aware of the area and help you decide if it is somewhere you would like to live. Plus, it gives you the ability to ​jot down addresses that look vacant for research later in the day. 

​If you can, make apartment hunting a full-time gig. Spend a few days doing just that: hunting. I spent SO MUCH time on livelovely setting up alerts and favorites, making sure I was keeping up on which places were available and which ones had been rented out. 

All of that being said, apartment hunting takes great risks. However, in the end you could end up with something great. I've found a place that I think Jesse and I will be happy living with an amazing location. ​

​There are many reservations I had before searching for a new place that have now been stilled. Now comes the fun part: packing, selling old stuff and organizing!

What are some horror stories about moving that you've heard? What things have you learned on your own while moving?

The Hunt is On!

I've begun to really dig deep into what I want to do career-wise once I reach California. To be honest, I'm still quite stumped. A lot of my issue is a fear of rejection and really, my penchant for avoiding risk. But as I am in the beginning stages of my job-hunt (résumé building, cover letter writing, general web searches researching companies of interest) I've realized a big part of this that I don't enjoy is the process of selling yourself. Really, that's what the whole thing is: convincing prospective employers that you have the traits that they want. 

Sometimes the job application process makes me feel like I am begging, or that I need to lie through my teeth about my skills and re-approach actually learning something later. Instead, wouldn't it be great to be hired into a job based on character and the faith that you'll learn and grow into the position? Let's be real, I don't have any fancy work history and have made my share of mistakes, but I've seen a lot of idiots get jobs with salaries that look their nose down at mine, all the while I am knowing that I could run circles around the job if given the chance.

And how insanely pretentious and dishonest do you feel writing cover letters? I never feel like I am talking to a human. There is something absolutely robotic to introductory letters that makes job hunting even worse. Can't we just be ourselves? Does personality not matter?

Sure, I have technical skills. I am pretty good at computers and have great phone etiquette. I learn fast. But doesn't everyone say that? Sometimes I really wish all companies found some sort of skills test for human interaction: how many of YOUR coworkers would have failed that one?

So if I could write a cover letter and résumé in the way I wanted, it would probably read like the one below. Here is the (pretty) long introduction (cover) letter that I wish I could send employers. And not only send, but have be the letter that gets me the job. 

"Despite not having any specific job experience with the title of (insert job title that I've never done here) my previous experiences have provided me with the skills and traits required of such a position.As a manager of a store of over 40 employees, I learned the difference between making a plan and actually executing it. Many retail employees will often express that plans don't always get carried out and where those plans fall short, the motivation of a manager picks up the slack. Some days, you cannot anticipate moods but you can learn how to direct attitudes and short-comings into lessons learned and new ways to approach situations. Unfortunately, you can't manage every person the same way. I am great at adapting training towards the needs of individuals and am able to communicate based on personality. Sometimes it takes both a little sass and a little sweet.

I've been at what I thought was the bottom of barrel: where everyone in the company seems to be my superior, especially in my most recent position. "Administrative assistant" sometimes feels like a fancy way of saying "pretty front desk lady" and sometimes "babysitter" but I've learned that when I don't do my job to its full extent: I am more important than I thought. Sure, I'm not running the meetings, but I am the one that makes sure that they happen. I am great at logistical planning and organization: calendars are my best friend.

And maybe comparing cell phones plans for the best rate doesn't seem so exciting, but it is exciting saving $1000 a month just by asking phone companies questions that weren't asked by the last person. I know complaining about repairs incessantly to the owner of the building that our company leases our space from seems really annoying and at days makes me feel like a nag. Didn't that work eventually get done? And now, doesn't the building owner call weekly (on his own) to ask if there is any maintenance that needs to be done? I am able to assess the needs of the workplace I am in and provide solutions based upon those needs.

So really, small things do matter sometimes.

Did I graduate college? Sure did. You can ask what my degree is in and I will tell you, but first let me tell you why it doesn't matter what the degree is. I finished my degree in less time than anticipated knowing that the degree was for a field I didn't want to be in. I thought the degree was going to turn me into a world-changer by trade, but I learned too far into my schooling that it wouldn't and had two options: start from scratch or finish and learn some lessons along the way. I chose the latter. So what did I learn? Paying attention matters, learning is something that happens outside of school as well, and sleep is a necessary thing. I love to take notes, even if I completely understand what is being said and am constantly trying to learn new things. And I really like schedules and deadlines: planning your time allows for proper work/life balance. 

People sometimes look down at others for working in the food industry. But let me tell you something: if that person didn't work that job, who would serve you? My experience with the food industry taught me more things than some of my other positions did. I learned that details lead up to bigger things: if you miss cleaning a spot once, someone else will miss that same spot the next shift and then it won't get cleaned. Being rude to a customer because they're rude to you doesn't solve anything: it just makes them angry. My previous positions have taught me the necessary traits of positive-customer and client interaction. 

Every workplace has taught me a lot about the importance of communication, whether through a lack-thereof or from proper execution. I really don't believe that over-communication is a thing. I never assume. I also firmly believe that email communication shouldn't be seen as more casual than a formal letter or face-to-face interaction. There's something to the old-adage: "if you wouldn't say it to your grandma. . ."

Small parts make a big picture.

If you give me the opportunity, I will be the hardest worker you have come across, and if I don't know it-- I will learn it."

What do you wish you could say to potential employers without the fear of rejection?

 

Moving towards sunny skies

Getting this website up-and-running has been a long time coming. I keep telling all of my friends that I am going to do it, and then life keeps happening. Well, part of life has encouraged me even further to share this site with all of you.

I don't like to make assumptions that everyone knows what is going on in my life. Yes, I do share quite a bit of myself on the internet, but sometimes things slip between the cracks; We can't keep track of everyone, let's be honest.​ So if you've made it here and haven't already heard: I am moving to California. 

This is both exciting and very scary for me. California has a lot more opportunities career-wise and I'm hoping that the new location gives me a fresh-perspective ​on what it is exactly I'd like to do. 

All that to say, I don't hate Michigan. Actually, I never thought I'd actually be moving. I have my husband's brain to thank for this really because without his talent I don't think this would be happening. ​

​And really, everything that has been happening recently, although difficult and scary has made life seem far sunnier, far more exciting, and is a reminder that life is for living. As corny as all of that might sound, it's true. 

So in the coming MONTH (yes, really, ONE MONTH) before my move, I hope to not only share the adventure of this moving process, but also the memories I am making with my amazing friends here and TONS of recipes. ​Please, during this, feel free to comment with what you want to see. Ask questions— I don't bite! 

Let's have some fun and I promise I'll share some of my sunshine with you! ​

This is a Lifestyle Experience.

Or, maybe an experiment is a better way of describing it.

Here you will get a picture of some of my daily life, read the recipes that I share, and listen as I attempt to sort out just what it is that I am going to do next. You'll get the world that I understand: my love of cooking, my passion for clothes, and my interests in beauty. 

​So, for you, you're experiencing a bit of what I do- through my eyes, and I will be experimenting with the things I love. 

Be prepared for an onslaught of pictures of my food and lots of recipes, the occasional bragging on my amazing husband, and lots of nerd-talk. ​

​This is a safe place, so feel free to share your comments, concerns or questions!